Knowledge does not change behavior, experience does.
I knew smoking caused a myriad of problems, to include death, but I still smoked for almost 20 years.
Big problems are rarely ever solved with big solutions, instead, it’s small solutions made over periods of time.
I didn’t quit smoking a month ago, at 8am this morning I decided to quit from 8-9am today, then at 9am I will decide again what I will do.
Instead of over-analyzing how I was going to change an addiction of 20 years I decided to use a little solutions-focused therapy. Although at the time I quit smoking I didn’t realize that was the proper name for it💁🏻♀️
Solutions-focused therapy was invented in the late 1970’s by a husband and wife therapist team, Steve de Shazer and Indio Kim Berg along with their colleagues at the Brief Family Therapy Center.
Focusing on discovering potential solutions and finding what has worked in the past helped me realize I am capable of solving my own problem.
So what did I do?
I asked myself a series of questions:
1. when was the last time you went without a cigarette for longer than three hours?
2. What was the reason you stopped smoking in the past?
3. How would your life be different if you didn’t smoke?
This allowed me to see what was working and then I could focus on how I could do more of it!
In the past, I have always looked at what was broken, and how I could fix it😢
Problem-focused solutions rarely work (I know from experience). This time I decided to figure out my strengths and build on them instead of focusing on my weaknesses when it came to my smoking habit!
Daily actions create strong habits!